The age-old custom of arranged marriages in India is facing scrutiny in today’s world. With changing norms and increasing global influences, the practice is experiencing notable transformations sparking concerns about its authenticity and purpose.
The popular Netflix series "Indian Matchmaking" has shed light on this tradition. While it portrays the matchmaking process, it also sheds light on the challenges faced by modern Indians. Critics argue that it reinforces stereotypes while proponents view it as a reflection of contemporary matchmaking practices.
One concerning development in arranged marriage scenarios is the rise of "ghosting," where potential matches cut off communication. Priya Sharma, a 28-year software engineer from Mumbai shared her experience; "After weeks of conversations and even meeting the guy multiple times, the potential match and his family simply vanished. It's frustrating and disrespectful."
Opinions among Indians vary. Rahul Patel, a 32-year banker from Delhi values the tradition; "Arranged marriages provide a support system and help you connect with someone who shares similar values and background." In contrast Akriti Grewal, a 26-year marketing professional expresses doubts; "At times it seems more like a business deal, than genuine connection. People tend to exaggerate their strengths or conceal their weaknesses." Garima (name changed) recalls how her engagament was called off in an arrange marriage set-up when the guy decided to return to his long-time girlfriend.
With the rise of matrimonial platforms and applications, the landscape has become more intricate offering a broader array of choices while also exposing individuals to potential scams and fraudulent activities. Instances of fabricated profiles and financial exploitation have spurred calls for oversight.
The situation becomes more intricate when examining arranged marriages within business families. In scenarios the union often takes on characteristics akin to a strategic partnership or alliance. Dr. Ranjana Kumari, who heads the Centre for Social Research in New Delhi observes, "In high profile business family alliances marriage is perceived as a strategic manoeuvre aimed at consolidating wealth or advancing business interests. This can sometimes overshadow the compatibility between the partners."
There have been reported cases where these marriages are primarily viewed as transactions. Amit Khurana, a business consultant, elaborates "I've encountered situations where discussions around dowry have been supplanted by conversations regarding equity stakes and positions on company boards. It represents a twist on an age-old issue."
The broker settlement is no less. Once you hire a broker; someone who arranges meet-ups with a potential match, you pay an exorbitant amount of brokerage depending on the “worth of the family”. Gauri, a resident of Chhatarpur in Delhi, recalls paying a brokerage of 0.5% on the total amount “spent” on the wedding by both the families.
Despite these obstacles arranged marriages continue to be prevalent in India. According to a survey conducted by Taj Hotels in 2022, 69% of Indians still favour arranged marriages over love-based unions. However, 85% believe that there is a need, for modernizing the process.
The realm of divorce rates presents a scenario.
In a report released by the United Nations in 2018 it was noted that the divorce rate in India stood at 1%. This low rate is often linked to the widespread practice of arranged marriages. A study featured in the International Journal of Sociology of the Family revealed that the divorce rate within arranged marriages was 4% contrasting with a higher rate of 13% found in love marriages.
Nevertheless, it is important to approach these statistics with caution. Sociologist Dr. Priya Vasudevan highlights that lower divorce rates in arranged marriages do not necessarily equate to relationships. The societal pressure and stigma surrounding divorce often compel couples to remain even if they are unhappy.
The future trajectory of marriages in India may involve a blend of traditional matchmaking principles and contemporary expectations. With transparency regarding financial matters and an increased focus on personal compatibility this age-old practice continues to undergo transformations.
The ongoing discourse on arranged marriages in India shows no signs of conclusion. As society grapples with striking a balance, between tradition and modernity it is likely that this institution will further evolve to mirror the shifting values and aspirations of todays generations.
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