“Hum Saath, Saath Hain”- a movie that promoted the taboo of “Keeping ties with toxic family members” and showcasing the idea of what it is like to be a "perfect family". Let's be honest-It does not exist. More often than not family bonds are considered sacred, no matter how toxic they turn out to be. However, a growing number of Indians are recognizing the importance of prioritizing mental health over societal expectations.
A recent study by the Indian Journal of Psychological Medicine in 2022 revealed that 37% of participants reported mental abuse from their family members while 18% of the respondents already aimed at cutting ties. These findings shed light on a significant overlooked issue within the Indian society.
Gagandeep, a 29-year-old, marketing professional shares “I endured emotional abuse from my uncle for years where he consistently undermined my career aspirations and asked the pertinent question of ‘When are you getting married’? I tended to avoid him at our family gatherings”
The choice to sever ties is seldom straightforward in a society like India’s that values collectivism. Dr. Anand Kumar, a psychologist based in Delhi elucidated; "In India family is frequently viewed as an extension of one’s self. Breaking off relationships can feel like cutting off a part of your identity. Nevertheless, it's imperative to acknowledge that toxic ties can significantly impact health culminating in anxiety, depression and diminished self-worth."
From a standpoint nurturing connection with family members can impede personal development and happiness. Research indicates that prolonged exposure, to negativity and manipulation may result in stress levels that affect both physical well-being.
Ravi Patel, a life coach, from Bangalore shares tips; "Begin by establishing boundaries. If these boundaries are consistently crossed it may be time to think about setting limits or ending communication. The focus is on safeguarding yourself than punishing the individual."
Although the choice to sever ties is personal having a supportive network is crucial. Online communities and support groups are becoming more common in India offering environments for people to exchange stories and seek guidance. With increasing awareness more Indians are recognizing the importance of prioritizing their wellbeing even if it means challenging family dynamics.
It's important to note that cutting ties doesn't always mean separation. At times it's about creating space, for healing and reevaluating the relationship. Ultimately the aim is to nurture a life filled with supportive connections – whether they come from family or chosen companions.
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